Never a Waste: Why Homemade is Best
Have you ever bought a bag of something because it was a better deal, only to throw half of it away later because you couldn’t use it all in time?…
Jesus, Tofurkey, and a Little Soft Shoe: a Thanksgiving Reboot
Two years ago, articles in the press appeared, talking about how to go about “uninviting” your unvaccinated families for Thanksgiving Dinner. I’m not much of a religious person but I…
Longing and Loss: Life After Mandates
I watched a movie the other night called “Three Thousand Years of Longing,” starring the brilliant Tilda Swinton. When it ended I found myself weeping quietly in despair. Being on…
Online Dating: Learning to Be More Honest
Having been online dating for all of three weeks, it occurred to me that it was time to “gird my loins.” I have met a few men online, had my…
How to Choose a Winning Environment
A few years ago I heard a saying that’s stuck with me: The environment always wins so choose a winning environment. What does this mean? First, there’s your physical environment.…
Hurting From the Truth & Being Free
My son got married last weekend but an occasion that should have been full of joy for me was an exercise in stoicism and humility. Thankfully, I was able to…
Get Out of the Box or Die Tryin’
Why is it so easy to see the mistakes and idiotic things other people do but so difficult to see our own? For eight years I’ve done nothing but whine…
Dog Shit Crazy is Nothing Special
All my life I have made excuses whenever I’ve run into a person who said rude or hurtful things to me or someone I loved. Whenever someone acted mean-spirited, I…
Gloating, Crowing, and the Art of Being Gracious
Eating Crow From Bonnie’s Books I had a conversation with someone recently about how we are starting to see and hear about people with strange and disturbing side effects from…
Advice From the Voices in My Head – Part 1
“This is bullshit. Why didn’t I just leave well enough alone and stay married?” Still in bed, I pull the pillow over my head to shut out the light and…